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Give A F*ck, About Feeling Sexy

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Let’s talk about the S word. 

Sexy. 

This four letter word holds so much power. The power to belittle, the power to shame, the power to crush one’s self esteem, the power to give up on loving yourself. “She’s dressed too sexy” “She’s too old to be sexy” “She’s too large to be sexy” “She’s too homely to be sexy” This one four letter word holds so much negative weight, that the true power and greatness of this word, has been stripped away. What is the real power of sexy? Why should we give a f*ck about feeling sexy? 

Like most women, and even men, I have struggled with feeling confident in my own skin. I have a hard time knowing if others find me attractive, and I don’t believe them when they say they do. I allow the opinions of others to weigh on my self esteem, especially the opposite sex. But over time while working to fully love myself for the amazing badass woman that I am, I have realized something. I am sexy as f*ck. It may sound egotistical, but it’s true, and I am not sorry for saying it. 

My good friend Layla Asher, through her own self love journey, has also discovered that she too, is sexy as f*ck. I asked Layla to share some thoughts of why she gives a f*ck about feeling sexy. 

What Does Feeling Sexy Mean To You?

To me, feeling sexy means feeling empowered and feeling like my confidence is shining from the inside out. Over the years I’ve learned that my empowerment, confidence, and sexiness are all a state of mind. If I am really feeling myself, I can feel just as sexy in lingerie as I do in my favorite old, ratty, oversized t-shirt. For me, that feeling can be intensified when I’m able to vibe off of other people’s energy. That energetic combination can be so intoxicating and so contagious! There’s nothing like putting on a great outfit and some fabulous makeup and going out into the world. People take notice and I feel like the plus size Carrie Bradshaw!” 

Why Do You Feel It’s Important To Feel Sexy?

I think as women it’s incredibly important to feel sexy. When you feel sexy you are accepting and loving yourself and your body just the way you are. Getting to that place as a woman takes a lot of hard work and a lot of breaking down barriers. Feeling sexy also means expressing your sexual side without shame and that is such a beautiful and meaningful thing! We have been taught and reminded over and over not to express our sexual sides because it will invite unwanted attention. I am hopeful that by embracing our sexiness we are changing this stereotype and that feeling sexy from now on means feeling safe and feeling empowered! And what’s more important than that?” 

Feeling sexy is a mindset. When you allow yourself the freedom to feel comfortable and sexy and to be who you want to be, you can’t help but ooze sexy confidence. Here are some of the ways I have learned to how create this mindset and embrace giving a f*ck about feeling sexy. 

1.Have an at home boudoir photoshoot

There is something so magical about slipping into negligee and taking sexy photos for yourself. You can’t help but feel like you are the sexiest person alive. All you need is your phone, your favorite piece of lingerie, some mood lighting and you are good to go! Explore with poses that make you feel sexy and empowered. (Check out some inspiration for boudoir poses here) These photos are for you so allow yourself the freedom to just be you. I think you’ll be surprised with how easily that confidence will translate over into how you carry yourself in the outside world. If there is a photo that you particularly love, share it on social media. I have found that the usual response is overwhelmingly positive. I have a photo of myself that I love so much, I use it as my lock screen on my phone. It serves as a reminder of how amazing I really am. That’s the purpose of taking these photos. It’s a reminder to you of how amazing and sexy you are.

2.Wear the clothing you have always thought was sexy but were too nervous to try

I have always wanted to wear crop tops, but I have never felt like I have had the body for them. I would buy a crop top and then let it be wasted and forgotten in the back of my closet. I finally reached a point where I said “F*CK IT!,” wore my first crop top out, and I haven’t looked back since. After I made that choice for myself, it became easier for me to experiment with other clothing to feel sexy in. Slip dresses, tight jeans, deeper cuts, oversized t-shirts paired with ripped boyfriend jeans, there is nothing that I won’t try now. Buy something that you have always found sexy but didn’t have the courage to try. Wear it around your home. Allow yourself to admire your curves, the way it falls on your body, notice how you hold yourself in the mirror. You look sexy as f*ck right? That’s because you are. Wear these outfits around the house, to the grocery store, Hell, take yourself out to a bar and buy yourself a drink, because you are sexy as f*ck and deserve that drink. 

3.Listen to positive affirmations

I know this one sounds cheesy, believe me, I know. I used to be one of those people who did not buy into this, but after I listened to “You Are a Badass” by Jen Sincero on audible, I noticed that I was holding myself differently. I was walking with confidence because I listened to how amazing I was over and over and over again. I couldn’t help but believe it. I have been chasing that high ever since. It feels so good to walk with confidence, having no doubts about how sexy you are. Read Jen’s book, create a mood board of positive statements, or make a playlist of confidence boosting music. Whatever you choose to do, make sure it creates a positive atmosphere to get into a confident mindset. You’ll notice that you start to carry yourself differently. You’ll walk with confidence and show the world how sexy you are. 

4.Just be yourself

This is the most important thing you can do to feel sexy. Only you know how to do this. Embrace yourself for all of the wonderful things you are, flaws and all. This is not an easy process and it takes time, but I promise it is worth taking the time. When you love yourself, you can’t help but to feel sexy all the damn time. Because let me tell you, YOU. ARE. SEXY. 

Feeling sexy isn’t about dressing a certain way or looking a certain way. Feeling sexy is a state of mind. It’s the connection you have with yourself and understanding how truly special and amazing you are. When you feel sexy, the world has limitless possibilities. There is no fear while exploring new avenues because you have the confidence to do it. The true magic about feeling sexy is that there is no wrong way to feel sexy. Wear makeup, wear no makeup. Wear a tight dress, wear loose jeans. Wear heels, wear sneakers. Wear matching lingerie, wear nothing at all. Do whatever you want as long as YOU feel sexy. 

So, what is the true power of this magical four letter word? Sexy is the power of confidence, the power of believing, the power of raising others up, the power of loving yourself. Sexy is the greatest four letter word there is. Give A F*ck About Feeling Sexy, because it is the most rewarding thing you will ever do for yourself.    

What does feeling sexy mean to you? Share your answer and photos with the hashtag #IGAFABOUTME to be featured. 

Be sure to follow Layla and her mission of spreading body positivity @misslaylaasher

Give A F*ck, Even At Home

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It’s day 5,352 of quarantine. 

Not really, but F*CK does it feel that way! With the spread of Covid-19 many have either started working from home, have no job, or have no clue what they are doing besides trying their best to get by. I am a combination of all three. I am working from home trying to figure out the new direction of my business, I have no job since all restaurants are closed and there is no freelance makeup work, and I have no clue what the f*ck I am doing besides trying my best to get by. Most days I find ways to keep myself busy, but other days my anxiety really kicks up and it feels like all hope is lost. I find the best way to deal with my anxiety is to keep Giving A F*ck and try to keep a sense of routine and normalcy. Here are the best tricks I have found for Giving A F*ck at home. 

1. Put on Makeup:

Red lipstick

I have never believed that makeup is used because a woman feels the need to look attractive for a man. I didn’t put on bright blue lipstick this morning because I thought Chad would think it’s sexy (and no Chad I am really, really not interested in giving you a smurf dick so please for the love of Christ, STOP ASKING!). I put on bright blue lipstick this morning because I like the way it looks and it makes me feel like a magical f*cking unicorn. Many women are still putting on full lashes and bright red lips just to go sit on the couch all day simply because it makes them feel good. Continuing to put on makeup each day helps create the sense that something is going to be accomplished. You are taking the time to put effort into yourself and that will help you want to transition into other projects. Even if the project is sweeping the floor with a glass of wine, you’ll feel great about how the day went. 

Also I know someone who is offering virtual makeup classes if you are looking for help. *wink wink*    

2. Get Dressed:

work from home

I admit I have been terrible about wearing anything other than sweatpants. I blame the fact that my diet has become heavy on cheese and bread so I am too afraid to put on my real pants. HOWEVER, even though I am living in a world of sweatpant bliss, I still make the effort to style myself with a fashionable top and accessories. I am using this time to explore the streetwear fashion I have been wanting to experiment with. As the weather is changing I am starting to pull my summer dresses so I can wean myself off sweats. I run around my apartment fully made-up and dressed and my two male roommates think I am f*cking insane, but whatever. I am happy and feel like my sanity level is doing pretty good considering all things. Getting dressed in the morning helps create the divide between time spent in bed and time spent being productive. Even if that productive time is only an hour long and you get right back into bed for a nap, you still accomplished something. You have earned that nap! 

3. Take a Bath:

bubble bath

Baths have become my ultimate religion and savior. I swear there is nothing that a bath can’t fix. On the days that I am having my worst anxiety I draw myself a deep luxurious bubble bath and easily don’t get out for over an hour. I have developed this bad habit of eating takeout, drinking a cocktail (Please drink and bathe responsibly), and watching netflix while in the tub. I highly recommend it. 15/10. Baths have multiple health benefits. From reducing stress, aiding joint health, and burning calories (I am not even kidding, google it), baths are the ultimate cure all for all of your needs. Check out my Pinterest board for some inspiration for your next bath.  

4. Take Walks:

dog walk

  I’m not going to lie, before the start of the quarantine I sometimes thought of walking my dog as a bit of a chore. Don’t get me wrong, I love Baxter more than anything and would die for him in a second, but on mornings after a little too much wine, the sun and outdoors aren’t exactly my best friend. In the last two months I have come to look forward to my daily walks with Baxter. Not only has it helped reduce my anxiety tremendously, it has also helped me rediscover how beautiful my neighborhood really is. Walking not only has many health benefits such as reducing blood sugar, strengthening your heart, and boosting immunity, it also does wonders for the mind. Walks help reduce anxiety, boost self-esteem, and instantly elevates your mood. If you feel overwhelmed and cooped up, try taking a walk and see if that helps make a difference. It is recommended to walk for at least 30 minutes a day.

5. Don’t Be Too Hard on Yourself:

love

 I am someone that struggles with anxiety and depression. It is something I have battled for a long time and I am not ashamed to admit it. Being in quarantine has elevated my symptoms and some days I don’t know how to fight my battles. It’s really easy to compare myself with others who seem to be handling things better and shame myself into thinking that I am not doing more with my time. My therapist has become a tremendous resource for me. I am very thankful that I have been able to retain her services. What I have learned is that there is no right way of doing this. Let me repeat that. There Is No Right Way Of Doing This. Not everyone is going to make bread, not everyone is going to learn a new language. Hell, not everyone is going to shower every single f*cking day. It is okay to not get out of bed some days. It is okay to order takeout instead of cooking. It is okay not to be okay. It is also okay to ask for help. Phone a friend, a family member, or reach out to a professional. Someone will always be willing to help. I have listed some phone numbers and resources below. We are all doing our best and it’s okay to take this one day at a time. We will come out stronger on the other side.

Some days it is really hard to Give A F*ck, but it is important to still try in some way. Even if your way of giving a f*ck is brushing your teeth in the morning, hell, you accomplished something! I am here as a resource if you ever need help. Just reach out! 

What are the ways you are trying to Give A F*ck? Let me know below!       

I am offering virtual classes for all of your beauty needs. From makeup, to skin care, to male grooming, or anything in between I am here to help! Contact me for more information.

Mental Health Resources  

Liz, Gives A F*ck

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I had the absolute pleasure of working on this beautiful dog mom and model, Liz LaModelo. She owns her beauty and this is what she gives a f*ck about:

“I Give A F*ck about myself. I Give A F*ck about how I look. I Give A F*ck about my face. On a daily basis I work on my face because it is the first thing you are going to see, and it’s the first thing that’s going to let you know how confident I am about myself.”

Watch her video on the @GAF.MAKEUP Instastories and be sure to follow for others who share why they Give A F*ck.

Follow Liz @LADOLCEVITA25.

What do you Give A F*ck About? Contact to share your story.

#IGAFABOUTME

Products used:
-Skin:
     Flesh Beauty Foundation Thin Stick in Toffee
     Haviic Cosmetics Concealer Palette
     Makeup Revolution Translucent Loose Setting Powder
-Eyes:
     Morphe Cosmetics 18S Sunset Beats Palette
     Go 2 Beauty Gel Liner
-Brows:
     Billion Dollar Brows Universal Brow Pencil 
-Blush:
     Makeup Revolution Reloaded Neutrals 
-Contour and Highlight:
     Makeup Revolution Roxxsaurus Contour and Highlight Palette
-Lips:
     Anastasia Lip Palette Vol. 1


Brittany, Gives A F*ck

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My name is Brittany, I am the founder of Give A F*ck Beauty, and this is what I Give A F*ck about:  

“I Give A F*ck about beauty. I know that it sounds vain, but for me whenever I feel beautiful it helps me fight my everyday battles. Knowing that I took the time to make myself feel beautiful, it helps me put my best foot forward. My goal is to help everyone feel beautiful and empowered, and to own what makes them feel beautiful. More importantly, I want to help everyone spread the message about what they Give A F*ck about.” 

Watch my whole video on the @GAF.BEAUTY instastories and be sure to follow for others who share why they Give A F*ck.

Follow me @ONLY_BS

What do you Give A F*ck About? Contact me to share your story. 

#IGAFABOUTME

Products used:
-Face:
     Hourglass Vanish Seamless Finish Foundation Stick in Alabaster and Shell
     Tarte Shape Tape in Fair-Light Neutral 
     Too Faced Born This Way Concealer in Snow
     Laura Mercier Translucent Setting Powder Glow 
-Eyes:
     Anastasia Beverly HIlls Soft Glam Palette 
     Wet N WIld Megaliner in Black Noir 
     NYX Cosmetics Faux Whites Liner in Vanilla 
     Too Faced Better Than Sex Mascara (upper)
     Mac Extended Play Gigablack Lash Mascara (lower)
     On-Fleek Box lashes in Neck Breaker 
-Brows:
     Mac Shape+Shade Brow Tint in Cork
     Anastasia Beverly Hills Dipbrow in Ash Brown
-Blush:
     Wet N WIld Coloricon Blush in Pearlescent Pink 
-Contour:
     Anastasia Beverly Hills Stick Foundation in Fawn 
     Tarte Tarteist Pro Glow Palette in Sculpt
-Highlight:
      Fenty Beauty Killawatt in Trophy Wife 
-Lips:
     Kylie Cosmetics Lip Liner in Beau
     Fenty Beauty Stanna Lip Paint in Uncensored  

Welcome To Give A F*ck Beauty

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    Hello all my GAF Beauties! Like most of you, I have found myself out of work and having to come up with creative ways to make a living for myself. I figured there is no time like the present to officially launch Give A F*ck Beauty. I believe that now, more than ever, we need to Give A F*ck about ourselves and maintain as much normality as possible. For me, makeup is normality. Makeup is how I fight my battles and lipstick is my weapon of choice. Makeup is why I wake up in the morning and Give A F*ck about how my day is going to go. Makeup is my way of remembering this is only temporary and I want to share that with you. I want to help you feel beautiful even in these crazy times. I want to help you maintain your normal.  

    With Give A F*ck Beauty I will be offering virtual 1 on 1 classes and personal online shopping. Classes are personalized for whatever beauty needs and questions you would like help with. Whether it’s help with an everyday skincare routine, mastering the perfect winged eyeliner, using the palette that’s been collecting dust, whatever beauty question you may have, I will be here with an answer. 

     The “I Give A F*ck About Me” class will be offered to those who would like help with creating an everyday look that makes you feel the most empowered. At the end of the lesson I will ask you the question “what do you give a f*ck about?” and share your story for the #IGAFABOUTME movement. 

     Just because we are in a time of isolation, that does not mean that we need to give up what makes us feel beautiful and what we Give A F*ck about. Let’s use the time now to experiment and practice to come out better on the other side. Let’s all continue to Give A F*ck and Own What Makes Us Feel Beautiful.